Go to the Wall

I mentioned on my previous posts that Gabz goes to school this school year. I brought her to school on the first few weeks, but lately her Dad was the one who dropped her off to school. One day out of the blue she told me that she needs to go to the wall. I said, OK without really thinking what she meant by that. Until evening came when I was talking to my husband discussing about Gabz field trip in school, when I realized what she previously told me about "Going to the wall". The idea sink in to me that it might be some sort of punishment given by the teacher in school when she don't behaved. We never asked her to Go to the wall or face the wall for any misbehaving. We always tried to talk to her about her actions and explain why she should not do this and that.

I felt so uncomfortable thinking that someone was trying to discipline my child. I know that it is the teachers job to teach them some rules and stuff, but it bothers me the same. I asked my husband to asked her teacher if there is any problem with Gabz in school.

The next day, my husband told me that the kids go to the wall as part of the game they did the other day. I was so relieved to hear that.

But, as parents how do you feel when you learned that someone else send your child to the wall for a punishment?

What kind of discipline do you apply to a three years old?

How do you enforce that discipline?

Did you see any improvement on your child's behaviour by using this type of discipline?

When do you start saying NO to your kids ?

The other day while going shopping at IKEA Gabz spotted a pony toy. She picked it up and asked if she could play with it. I then told her that she could play with it but we are not going to buy it, and she said yes. All through out our shopping she was happy playing with the toy. When we reached the counter to pay for all the stuff I wanted to purchased, she told me that she wanted to get the little pony. I told her NO, because we previously agreed that she could play with it, but we are not going to buy it. Then out of the blue she cried so hard and was very upset. I tried to be patient and talk to her very gently about our previous agreement. I could see that she was listening, but having trouble giving up the toy.

Suddenly, a woman approached us (who is on front of us in the counter line) and asked if Gabz is crying because she is tired. I told her that she is upset because of the toy. While talking to Gabz, these people in front of us keep on looking as if they wanted to buy the toy themselves just to appeased her.

She was really so upset, that even her Dad was already asking is how much is that damn toy. I told him I don't know because I don't have any plans in buying at all. I wanted to let Gabz know and understand that not all the things she wanted, she could have it. She has to learn that when we say NO, it has to be NO, and whatever she has agreed she has to stick to it.

I know she is just a kid and I love her so much. I want to give her everything that makes her happy, but all things has its own limitations for her own good someday.

I know this is a very common scenario to all parents out there. Sometimes it is quite difficult to stick to your own rules, but kids are very smart. Once they know that they could get what they want by being upset or giving tantrums, they would always do it every time they want something.

Teaching kids proper behaviour or discipline is tough. Sometimes you do not know when you should give in or be firm with them. Because at the end of the day, you does not want your kids to be defiant nor lenient. Every parents dreams is to have their kids grow up and be a good person with proper values and good behaviour.